by Lynn Wonders | Sep 18, 2016 | Life Over 40, The Kitchen Sink
This might be tough but it’s important. Letting go can be one of the simplest yet most difficult things to do. Are there relationships that have run their course and may be nothing but a drain and a burden? I’m not suggesting you start breaking up with your entire family and friend group. I am suggesting, though, that as we dedicate ourselves to living a simpler life – especially at this mid-life point – we really need to evaluate who we are hanging out with. You may find you have a friend that you’ve known for 15 years who complains constantly and can’t ever seem to find the bright side, always making every get together about herself and her woes. You’ve tried to talk to her about it many times but she dismisses your concerns and makes uno changes. It might be time to let her go.
Or, you might have lived a lifetime of being treated poorly by a family member with whom you’ve made many attempts to assert yourself, set boundaries and request a change to no avail. It might be time to let him go.
Perhaps you’ve been working in a job you really hate for too long. It might be time to move on, find another way to earn your income and let it go.
Letting go of people and situations that are familiar can feel like a very difficult thing to do.
At this point in life we begin to realize that the quality of our time spent with others needs our attention. We become more mindful of how we are feeling when around certain people or in particular situations. We begin tuning in and listening to our inner guidance more carefully. And often we find it’s simply time to let go of some people, some places or some things.
Relief can be had when we follow these hunches. And letting go need not be cruel. You don’t even owe anyone a full explanation.
Relationships worth holding onto or jobs that offer us long term security can be opportunities to work through challenges. I’m not suggesting we walk away from all the people who are difficult to deal with. I’m referring to honoring what your inner wisdom tells you on when it’s time to simply let go. When you’ve tried long enough and are feeling perpetually depleted or beaten down. Give yourself permission to lovingly release those relationships and wish them only the best on their own life paths. You can choose to walk away so that you can focus more of your energy and time on the healthier relationships and fulfilling life experiences. Letting go can be a gift to yourself and your life.
by Lynn Wonders | Sep 17, 2016 | Life Over 40, The Kitchen Sink
As a part of my pursuit of a simple life I have to look at the ways these days I have fun that fit with my new lifestyle In my early 20’s I felt compelled to go out on the town at night even though we had very little extra money. In my late 20’s and early 30’s, my days and nights were busy taking care of my babies. I didn’t see a movie or watch a TV show other than Disney and PBS kids from 1994 – 2000. Once the kids were a little older I thought it was a luxury to get to watch Sex & The City on HBO after they’d gone to bed. In my 40’s as the kids have grown up my husband and I have mastered the art of simple entertainment and we make this a regular part of our weekly life so that we have balance after a lot of long work hours.
We do love local theater and the arts. Whenever possible we support the creative arts community by attending plays, art shows and local music in small venues. We love our travel adventures and go on trips on average 5-6 times/year. But we also have some simple ways to kick back and enjoy our down time.
- Porch time. I never thought I’d be that adult who sat on the porch sipping on iced herbal tea but I must say that I really enjoy it. We marvel at all the wild life in and around our home. We catch up on the goings ons of the week. Just this morning we watched the morning sky turn from pink to blue. A simple life lends to valuing the view.
- Gardening. I’m not much of a green thumb but I love to plant and care for flowers and fruit plants. It’s very rewarding to prune, pinch off the dead-heads, see how the plants are flourishing.
- Cooking. Now that our daughter is a junior in high school with lots of evening activities, Dennis and I are almost empty nesters so we often are the only two home for dinner. We turn on Edie Brickell, Ray LaMontagne or an evening chill play list off of Spotify and cook together. It’s truly fun and bonding for us to make our own meals and sit down together at the dining room table or out back on the back porch if weather permits. Back porch dining is definitely part of a simple life.
- Walking. I used to walk only for exercise or to take the dog to potty but now walking in the evenings is one of my favorite activities. I enjoy crossing paths with other walkers and admiring the landscaping and gardens of our neighboring homes.
- Netflix. I must admit in this day and age it is simple and fun entertainment to follow a series or catch a movie on Netflix. We invested a reasonable amount of money into smart TVs and now the cinema is at our finger tips and there is some really great viewing available.
- Chess. It’s not just for cerebral kids. It’s a game that strengthens the brain and is really entertaining. We keep a chess set out on our coffee table and I’ve been known to bond with my kids, their friends, husband over a good game of chess.
- Fiction. As a psychotherapist and a leader in my profession I have to stay up on the latest research in the field of wellness and psychology but I love a good fiction book. Whether an actual book or on my reader I love to get lost in a compelling read. Part of living a simple life has been to return to taking time to snuggle with a good book.
- High School Football. Maybe it’s a carry over from when my middle child played football but I find high school games to be very entertaining. And it’s not just the game. It’s watching the kids and the parents in the stands.
- Meditation and Yoga. It’s a non negotiable. And I truly love it. Doing a daily yoga practice and sitting in meditation in the sacred space of my new little studio space is one of my favorite things to do and is definitely part of my simple life entertainment.
If you have ideas for simple entertainment you enjoy please post in the comments below!
by Lynn Wonders | Sep 16, 2016 | Life Over 40
As Autumn is around the corner I am beginning to crave home-made soup again. I take a break from soup during the Summer months. There is nothing more nourishing and comforting than a bowl of soup on a chilly evening. Soup is also a simple dinner idea, feeds a crowd and if crafted with care can be a high nutrition, lower calorie option if you’re being mindful of your health and weight.
There are a gazillion soup recipes on the internet but below are two recipes I absolutely love that I make in my slow cooker for myself and my family. These recipes are my own – variations of other recipes I’ve tried over the years. One is a plant based recipe and the other uses chicken stock and chicken breast meat.
Simple Soup Recipe 1: Kickin’ Veggie Soup
Get out your slow cooker or you can make this on the stove top if you’ll be nearby. Needs to simmer all day for best flavor.
32 ounces of organic vegetable stock (home made or store bought)
32 ounces of organic tomato sauce
1 medium onion finely chopped
1 cup of organic English peas
1 cup of butternut squash cubes (you can find these in freezer section or produce section)
1 cup of chopped organic green beans
1 cup of chopped organic kale
1 cup of chopped organic purple cabbage
1 tsp of Himalayn pink salt
1/2 tsp of black pepper
a few shakes of Tabasco sauce
1/4 tsp of cayenne pepper
1 Tbsp. of lemon juice
Throw all the ingredients and simmer all day. Serve and garnish with a sprig of water cress or parsley.
Simple Soup Recipe 2: Wonders Chicken Soup
Best cooked all day in slow cooker. Serves 6-8
2 free range, organic chicken breasts
64 ounces of organic chicken broth
1 medium onion chopped
3 stalks of organic celery chopped
3 large organic carrots chopped
1 small organic zucchini chopped
1 tsp of Himalayan pink salt
1/2 tsp of black pepper
1 tbsp of apple cider vinegar
1 tsp of garlic powder
Place chicken in bottom of slow cooker and add broth and other ingredients. Cook on low 8 hours. When it’s time to serve gently tear up the chicken with a fork and knife into the broth, stir and serve.
by Lynn Wonders | Sep 14, 2016 | Life Over 40, Spiritual Healing & Growth
I have been a yoga and meditation teacher since 1995. I’m certified in a particular style of circular breath-work and I teach breathing exercises (pranayama) to my clients of all ages to increase focus, experience relief from anxiety symptoms and align body, mind and spirit. I never stop being amazed at how human beings don’t seem to know how to breathe in a way that helps them to feel better. We were born into the world naturally knowing how to breathe so when did we start holding our breath or breathing so shallowly?
A simple breathing technique has been proven to bring immediate calm to the nervous system. This one breath exercise can snap you back into present moment, ground your otherwise frazzled energy and simplify your life. Ready to learn?
I call this slow bubble blowing.
- Allow your belly to grow soft and sit up straight. Drop your shoulders down away from your ears.
- Through your nose take in a deep full breath allowing your belly to expand naturally and fill the lungs all the way up to your collar bone. (count to 4 if you like).
- As if blowing bubbles in a controlled manner, blow out the breath very slowly and completely. Make this exhale twice as long as the inhale. (count to 8 if you like).
- Repeat 3 times.
- Notice the profound shift.
Simply breathe and your life will seem sweeter, slower and more relaxed.
by Lynn Wonders | Sep 10, 2016 | Life Over 40, Spiritual Healing & Growth
When was the last time you had an absolutely delicious night of sleep? Oh how much easier sleep comes when we are leading a more simplified life. Fewer worries keeping us up at night. Less clutter in the house interfering with our ability to relax. Shorter to-do-list.
So which comes first? Chicken or the egg? Simple life or good sleep? It’s a riddle for sure.
I’m going to begin with what I can control since it’s not so easy to control the quality of my sleep on command. I CAN control other factors that help contribute to the quality of my sleep, however. So here are the things I’m vowing to do today and the next several days. I will test it and let you know how it goes or if you’re brave and want to try this with me please – by all means – join me!
- I will move my body with loving vigor daily preferably in the morning until my heart rate is up and breath is heavy in intervals with moderate pace of rest in between for 20 minutes.
- I will ensure I drink a liter of water throughout the day but stop drinking fluids after 8 pm so I don’t awaken in the middle of my slumber for potty time.
- I will refrain from alcoholic beverages as these interfere with sleep patterns for a variety of reasons.
- I will meditate first thing in the morning and just before I go to sleep at night. Ommmm.
- I will practice my beloved gentle yoga with a downloadable class in the morning and again at before I do my bedtime meditation.
- I will breathe deeply and consciously throughout the day.
- I will use my black out curtains, remove all electronics from bedroom and turn on our air filter for soothing white noise.
- I will difuse my blend of relaxing essential oils (lavender and cedar…)
- I will take a warm bath at night with candle-light and my favorite relaxing music play list over the blue-tooth speaker.
- I will eat a bit of lean protein just before retiring to avoid that 3 am blood sugar drop that often wakes us up out of our slumber.
- I will release the habit of worrying (this one is ongoing for all of us I think but I’ll do my best).
Here’s to simply slumbering and for striving to slow down and savor what really matters in life!
by Lynn Wonders | Sep 9, 2016 | Life Over 40, Spiritual Healing & Growth, The Kitchen Sink
It’s been four days since I started the 125 day challenge called A Simple Life Project. Today I will be driving from Atlanta up to Chattanooga for a training conference and I asked myself how I might simplify my life today. So, I plan to leave early and not turn on the radio during the drive. I’m going to drive with no sound other than my own breath and the faint squeal of my electric car along with the rush of other vehicles blowing past me on the highway. (Oh wait, I can’t take the electric car on this trip – not enough battery. Honey? Can I borrow the SUV please? No, I don’t need the Y cord for streaming music but thanks!)
I noticed recently while on a drive to and from our family vacation that my kids and husband seem to need to be listening to music constantly while in the car. I tolerated it but I craved silence. Maybe that’s why that serene lake with no cell service and no wifi was partly such a relief!
It’s all too easy when driving to become lost in thought or distracted by audio books or music. Today I am choosing to just drive. See the sights (even if it is tail lights and highway directional signs). I’m going to just be with myself, my breath, the steering wheel and the road.
Driving Simple. Simply driving. Like a meditation on wheels with eyes wide open.