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Give Yourself Permission to Pivot®

When you find yourself a little lost in your life, the most important first step is giving yourself permission to pivot. I want to share with you this concept that has been the cornerstone of my own personal and professional journey over the past three decades. I gave it a title. I call it Permission to Pivot®. So, strap in, as we embark on a ride filled with twists, turns, and the liberating feeling of embracing change.

Let me rewind a bit and take you back to where it all began for me.

Thirty years ago, fresh-faced and eager, I embarked on what I thought would be a linear journey through life. Armed with a specific set of skills and a clear trajectory in mind, I set out to conquer the world. Little did I know, life had other plans in store for me. I found out I was pregnant with my first child at age 27 just as my career in higher education was really taking off. While that little bundle of joy absolutely ignited a whole new set of passions and motivations for my life, it was not the journey I had imagined would unfold! Giving myself permission to pivot was a critical first step in order to release my grip on the vision I had previously held for the life I thought I was going to have.

Throughout the years since, I’ve encountered numerous forks in the road—moments where I had to make crucial decisions that would shape the course of my life. Whether it was reevaluating my career path, contemplating a change in location, or reassessing certain relationships, one thing became abundantly clear: I needed to give myself full permission to remain fluid, flexible, and open to change.

At the heart of  this philosophy and practice I have dubbed Permission to Pivot® lies the willingness to embrace uncertainty and adaptability. It’s about recognizing that life is not a straight line but rather a series of interconnected moments where we have the power to pivot and chart a new course.

What does your inner compass tell you about where you are?

One of the most significant lessons I’ve learned along the way is the importance of being in tune with my inner compass. It’s easy to get swept up in the expectations of society or the opinions of others, but true fulfillment comes from aligning our actions with our authentic selves.

For me, this meant being honest about what truly brought me joy and fulfillment, even if it meant veering off the beaten path. It meant having the courage to walk away from situations or relationships that no longer served my growth, despite the discomfort it may have caused.

But here’s the thing about embracing change—it’s not always easy. In fact, it can be downright terrifying at times. Stepping into the unknown requires a leap of faith, a willingness to trust that the possibilities yet unseen can be far greater than we can imagine. Allowing for change requires permission to pivot.

With each pivot comes growth, resilience, and a deeper understanding of who we are and what we’re capable of achieving. Every detour, setback, or unexpected twist in the road serves as an opportunity for learning and self-discovery.

Every detour, setback, or unexpected twist in the road serves as an opportunity for learning and self-discovery.

Uncertainty might just be a door to greater possibilities

As I reflect on my journey thus far, I feel palpable gratitude for every moment of uncertainty, every decision that pushed me out of my comfort zone, and every pivot that led me closer to my true purpose. Through it all, I’ve come to realize that the only constant in life is indeed change itself, and our ability to embrace it is what ultimately sets us free.

The more I accept, the more fully I release my grip on my attachment to what it is I want or what it is I THINK is best, the more smoothly the path seems to roll out in front of me.

I’ve come to realize that the only constant in life is indeed change itself, and our ability to embrace it is what ultimately sets us free.

So, if you are standing at a crossroads, grappling with the decision to pivot or stay the course, I urge you to grant yourself Permission to Pivot®. Trust in your intuition, have faith in your journey, and know that the path ahead may be uncertain, but it’s yours to explore.

Don’t want to go it alone? No worries. Help is available!

If you need a little help along the way, maybe you and I could work together! I am a Certified Wayfinder Coach with over 20 years experience as a licensed professional counselor, and over 30 years of teaching mindfulness-based practices like meditation, yoga, tai chi, and chi kung. Let’s meet for 15 minutes over Zoom or phone and discuss the possibilities!

Here’s to embracing the fluidity of life, one pivot at a time.